Changing My Name has Helped to Heal Myself and Others.


Today I tried to make myself an appointment.  I was met with a friendly lady to my face type of person, but when I asked her nicely to call me by my authentic name of Cynthia, she blatantly kept calling me Cindy.  Now I don’t have a problem with my nickname I received as a young child, but my problem here is with people disregarding my wishes.  If a person wishes to be called something different than what people typically will try to call them, I feel people need to follow the other person’s wishes.  This shows respect and love.   Since I’ve changed my name to my birth name, I’ve had about 10-15% of the people who I ask to call me by Cynthia, turn around and be negative about it.

My point in writing this is not to complain about these experiences.   But my point is to show how I and others can bring in the light of healing to this experience by way of changing how we think of these situations and using the Ho’Oponopono technique.

These experiences have made me angry each time they happen.  This shows me that I’m receiving behavior from others that crosses my personal boundaries.  People that continually cross my personal boundaries are people who I do not care to be around.  When I see bad behavior in others, and I react to it, I take a closer look at the bad behavior that was shown to me.  We all act as mirrors in each other’s lives.  So, looking closer at this experience, I have learned that I have not been rude to others regarding them changing their name.  But, I have seen where I have blatantly rebelled against someone just because I didn’t want to listen to them.

Realizing that I also have used my shadow side of my Rebel archetype towards others, I am able to ‘heal this”.  This is what we call “Shadow working”.  To heal this means, we bring this shadow behavior in to the light.  I have already acknowledged that I also have had similar bad behavior.  This is a start to bringing the behavior in to the light.

After I have calmed down and I have noticed similar behavior in my past, I will finish healing it by using an ancient Hawaiian love technique called Ho’Oponopono.  By using this ancient love technique, I’ll not only be healing myself, but when I start to heal of this, it also acts to stimulate other people in healing this behavior.  Remember, we are all connected.  When one person starts to heal themselves, it tends to act like a domino effect on others and stimulate others to do the same.  Now just because I have acknowledged the bad behavior in someone else an in myself and I do the ancient love technique, doesn’t mean I can forget all about the behavior.  This means, the Universe will hold me 100% responsible if I continue in doing this bad behavior(Karma).  Why?  Because I am aware I am doing it.  Now let’s clean our subconscious minds with using Ho’Oponopono technique.

When we use the Ho’Oponopono technique, we are talking to our Inner child.  This inner child is also your Divine self and your subconscious mind.  When we talk to our Divine selves, we use respect and love.  For our Divine selves are sacred.  When we clean our subconscious minds, we need to remember that our inner child-our inner, young child, has lived with whatever memory we have of each experience we’ve been in.  So, thinking back, find all your memories of horrific, abusive, and mean experiences. Why?  Because we are protecting our young inner child from having to live with these horrific memories.  The subconscious mind is like a computer.  It remembers everything you have ever experienced in this life-even if you have forgotten consciously.  To keep negative memories in your subconscious mind is to let your inner child continuously relive through them, every day of your life.

So, with these ideas in mind, we continue with Ho’Oponopono technique.  It is easy to do, you just need to do it.  So, let’s name the behavior or experience we want to erase.  I’ve been treated badly regarding my name change.  But when I looked at myself regarding this bad behavior, I have found that I too have done similar bad behavior.  The bad behavior was to rebel against others just because I didn’t want to do what they asked me to do.  Rebelling against a positive suggestion.  So, this was acknowledging my own bad behavior from the past.  Now using the Ho’Oponopono technique and with great respect and love, I say these words either out loud or in my head. “Cynthia, let’s clean house.  Please find all the information and memories regarding Me rebelling against a person asking me to do something that I really didn’t want to do.  Please find all the information and memories and I ask you to release it all up to God to be neutralized, erased, and healed.  I am so sorry, please forgive me, I love you, and I thank you.  I am so sorry, please forgive me, I love you, and I thank you.  I am so sorry, please forgive me, I love you, and I thank you.” “I let it go.”

That’s it!  You just used this ancient love technique to heal your own bad behavior.  Why do we say all the apologies?  Remember, you’re talking to your Divine self, your inner child.  You are apologizing for not spending much time with your inner child and for acknowledging your inner child.  Remember, you’re talking to yourself at maybe age 4 years old.  You let your inner child know, you are her/him, all grown up.  You are there to take care of yourself-inner child.  Your parents may still be alive, but you are now your inner child’s parent to protect them, to play, to talk to them and to love them.  Let your inner child know all this.  Typically, I would say a lot of people do not acknowledge themselves as a young child still inside of themselves (Child archetype).  Even though we are grown up, doesn’t mean you lose that child that stays safe and hidden inside of you.  Bad behavior that comes out of us, at times, can be from our inner child.  An inner child that is showing a person they need attention, healing, and some love.  So be gentle with this being inside of you.  The” I love you” in the technique is to show your affection to this priceless child.  “I thank you” is to let them know you are thankful for them being a part of your life.  For helping you heal the memories in you that need to be healed.  Thanking your inner child/subconscious mind/Divine self for releasing these memories up to God.  In this way, your inner child does not need to be around these bad memories.  Treat your inner child as you would treat any other young child-with love, respect, and protection.

In our daily lives, we need to find time to play, give ourselves attention, love, and respect.  Don’t forget about our Divine selves as a child.  This child remains in us, waiting for you attention, love and play!

So, as we follow our paths in life, we meet people.  Each person that we meet will either teach us or we will teach them.  My negative experience has taught me that I too have some shadows to heal.  I ask you to follow your paths and if you come upon someone that gets you upset in anyway, take a closer look at the bad experience.  Ask yourself, is it possible that you too have done something similar in life?  We all act as mirrors to each other.  It is up to us to realize this and to take the opportunity to heal ourselves-bring in the light.  When we heal ourselves, we bring our best, most loving self into the world.  And when we enter the world as our “best” versions, we also can heal the world, one person at a time.

By Cynthia Bergsbaken RM of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

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We absorb all energy that is around us

Our bodies are made up of mainly water. We are energetic beings. When we have someone being negative by us, we tend to absorb that negative energy and we become negative acting. When we have someone being positive around us, we tend to absorb this energy and we become positive in behavior. If we stay around negative energy continuously, our energy changes to a negative state which results in corrupting ourselves at a cellular level. It is important to be aware of who you keep company with in life.
I have hypothesized this based on what negative energy(sound) does to water. This can be seen at
Sound, energy vibes, color, our voices, spoken words, thoughts, beliefs, are all made of energy.
By Cynthia Bergsbaken of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

You Have Power


You have Power!!!

By Cynthia L. Bergsbaken

We have power every time you choose to be in the present moment.  Letting the past go and releasing any thoughts of what the future can or will bring us.  We have power every time we   choose to stand up for ourselves and others.  We have power every time we decide to act like our real, authentic selves, refusing to wear a false mask.  Our power lies in our choices we make in life.  Our choice to how we will react to another person.  Our choice on how we will react to a life’s experience.  Our choice on how we will react to ourselves.  The choice is broken in to two.  The choice to react with anger, depression, frustration, greed, hate, grief, revenge all stems from the base emotion-fear.  When we choose to react with these emotions and stay in these emotions about a person, experience or ourselves, we choose to come from “fear”.  When we choose to react with forgiveness, love, joy, happiness, and compassion, our choice stems from the base emotion of “love.”  When we live within our choices, whether fear or love, we create our physical worlds based on feeling these to be true in us.  We feel it to be true, we create our own physical realities.  If we want to feel like we have been a victim of the Universe, we will create our own life’s scenarios.  If we want to feel like the Universe put us in an experience that we can learn a lesson from, learn all about ourselves, we will be able to create the feeling of “love” out of a bad experience.  In life, I’ve been told, we are creating a beautiful tapestry up in Heaven with every choice and action we have made on Earth.  This tapestry can be as beautiful as you want or it can be as ugly as you want.  The choice is up to you.  To manifest the best life we can possibly have, we need to watch our choices in life.  Look at the motivation behind the choice you feel you want to make.  Does the choice come from fear or love?    We feel emotions.  The emotions are not us.  The negative emotions are ways to tell us there is something in us, that needs to be looked at closer to understand and to be released to God to be healed.  Making the choice to feel and wallow in a negative emotion is your choice, which stems from fear.   The emotions that come to us, tells us a lot about ourselves.   Let’s take the time to look at how we react to people, situations or our own selves.  Understand why you are making or have made, the choice you did.  To do this, is to understand yourself, thus heal yourself.  It is than that we can make a choice based in “love”.

Remember, you have power in life no matter what is happening around you, no matter who is in your life, and no matter what environment you are in.  You have the power of Choice.  Choose to feel like a victim or choose to feel grateful you have a life on earth.

Note-Ideas from:

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Eckhart Tolle

 Caroline Myss

and many others in past history.








What are you Projecting?

What are you projecting in life?  The light is associated with living as positive as you can.  Giving kindness, help, compassion, forgiveness, and love to others on your walk through life.  Giving kindness, compassion, forgiveness, and love to yourself.  Making mistakes in life are just “a given”.  It’s looking at our mistakes and learning from them that helps us project light.  It’s looking at ourselves and deciding that “yep, I need to clean up my behavior towards myself and others” and than actually doing it.  It’s all about keeping ones word towards self and others.  It’s about being the victim of bad behavior from others, but you decide to forgive them no matter how bad the behavior is.  It’s about seeing others’ differences, whether beliefs, thoughts, behaviors, energy, looks, culture, religion, or their life and wanting to learn about them and not judge them.  It’s about accepting others.  These are just some ways we follow that helps us project the brightest light from our souls to the world around us.

If one is projecting darkness, one is lost.  The darkness would include, greed, hate, prejudice,  judgement, rejection, etc.  Knowingly following these behaviors, you knowingly project darkness in to the world at a price, to your soul.

Let us be the beacons of light in this world.  Each light will benefit the other lights, creating a huge lighthouse light that will be able to shine a light path for others to follow, thus creating a world of compassion, forgiveness, and love.

Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken RM of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

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Live Fearlessly

I’ve been reading books on ADCs or After-Death Communications. I find them to   be enjoyable and exciting to read. I have come upon a few stories of spirit showing their relative what Heaven is like and who we are. “We are Divine spirit. A piece of God. Our Souls are fiercely/perfectly made.” When we see and realize just how perfect and beautiful our souls are, we realize that all our fears in life are just “illusions”. We are all here to teach and to be taught by others. Earth is a big school and we are all apart of this. We are here to learn compassion, love, and kindness. I have read, the more we act and think this way, the more our beings give off a Celestial song that is heard in the Heavens. One ADC experience heard the beautiful songs from billions of angels. These songs come from angels and all of life on Earth.
When we walk through life and we feel alone, remember, your soul/God is with you always. Our relatives/angels are with us. Outside of others’ behaviors/ego, try to imagine the real-authentic soul inside of the body. These souls are also apart of God. We all make up God’s body. We are all connected to each other.
So knowing all of this, live life with joy, love, and be excited! Live life “fearlessly”. Have fun with life. And stop taking life so seriously.
By Cynthia Bergsbaken RM of Reiki in the Prairie LLC
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Be Gentle!

Life can be a real “bear” at times! We all have our days where we feel like crawling into our homes and hiding. Other days, we are on top of the world! No matter how we feel inside, being gentle in words, actions, and thoughts, to ourselves and others is an awesome way to give “love’.
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Smudging (Saging) our homes and ourselves


is an old practice found in varying degrees around the world.  In some cultures, burning incense is used in religious rituals to purify the air.  In North America, the native Americans have burned herbs (White Sage, Cedar, etc.) to purify themselves and their rooms of any negative influences, including virus.  I have burned White Sage in my own home with the intention of purifying my home and my aura of all negative energies.  I have also used it in my home office to clear out any extra energy that has started to accumulate from giving Reiki sessions.  But when I give Reiki sessions in public or in the office I use in our town for clients, I am not able to burn White Sage.  And so, I make my own White Sage spray and I use this instead.  Using White Sage spray, I feel, is just as beneficial if not more than burning sage.  The biggest benefit is you don’t have to be around smoke.  Using a Smudging spray (in my case, White Sage spray) smells light and fragrant, especially if there is added essential oils in the spray.  If you’re interested in Smudging with White Sage and/or herbs, here is how I do it.  Everyone does it differently to some degree. 

Burning White Sage or herbs or combined:

To cleanse your home, I suggest you start in the basement.  You will be going from room to room.  You will need to place smoke in each corner of each room, including closets.  And while you do this, have the intention of-for example, of “purifying my house of all negative influences.”  Before you start, open at least one window on each level of the house.  It only has to be opened a crack.  This allows the smoke attached to negative energy to leave the home.

Light your White Sage stick on fire.  Have something under the stick to catch any ashes and/or sparks.  I’m not fussy, so I use an aluminum pie pan.  To use the White Sage stick, blow out the flame.  You only want the smoke.  Now go to the lowest part of your home-basement.  Start in one room.  Take the smudge stick and place smoke in one corner of the room, starting from the floor and moving up.  At the same time, I like to say a prayer/intention as I move from room to room.  I say something like this, “In Jesus Christ name, I bind all negative energy to the sage smoke and I send it outside to be turned to positive energy.”

Spirit Earth Science has this one you can say instead, “In Jesus Christ name, I release all negativity that surrounds me in to this sage smoke.  I release all fear that holds me back.  I release all energies that do not serve me.  Passing positive energy to those I cherish.”

There are different prayers you can make up yourself.  Say what you feel heals your home.

Place smoke in all corners and through center of the room.  Move to next room and repeat with your intention/prayer.

After you finish the basement, move up to the main floor.  If you have any other floors, continue until you’re done.  I have an attached garage and so I include the garage and my automobile.  You can also use a smudging stick to smudge your aura.  Just move the smoke around you while saying your intention/prayer.  Leave your windows open until your house has cleared up of the smoke.  You’re done.  Use this every time you suspect negative energy, virus, or if you’ve had a fight in your home.

The smudging spray is used in the same way, except you do not light it. (hahaha).  Just go from room to room, spraying in each corner and through the center with stating your intention/prayer.

I will share how to make Smudging spray.  But for those who would rather leave creating smudge spray to others, I offer you Reiki in the Prairie LLC’s smudge spray for sale in the Facebook shop.

Everyone who makes smudge spray adds their own little touch-Reiki in the Prairie LLCs included.

White Sage Smudge spray:

Take about 1 quart of Vodka (clear, non-flavored.)

Add about ½ cup of White sage leaves.  Place all of this in a large 2 qt. glass container.  Let it sit in a dark, cook area for about 6 weeks or more.

When the 6 wks is up, pour this through a cheesecloth.

Pour in to individual spray bottles.  To top off bottle, I add sterilized. Distilled water.  Now if you’re interested, you can add your favorite essential oil to each bottle.  Just make sure you shake your smudge spray before using it.

Smudge spray can be used in your office, house, in your aura, or any other place you feel needs to be energetically/physically cleaned.

Here is the link to Reiki in the Prairie LLC’s shop, just in case you decide you would rather buy smudge spray.

Hope this article was enjoyable and of interest to you. 

Anyone can smudge their house or self.  It just takes a little time and intention.

By Cynthia Bergsbaken RM of

July 25, 2017


Sound Healing


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by Cynthia Bergsbaken


I have shared some articles on Sound healing. Sound healing has been around for thousands of years.  When earth was created, God used sound to create.  Sound can be:  music, single notes played,  syllables sang, it can be chanting,  thinking, prayer, and it can be the spoken word.

We all do sound healing every day when you provide a simple encouragement to someone at the appropriate time. When someone is feeling low and maybe even depressed because of what they are going through in life, even the smallest word of encouragement can help.  When we acknowledge the person and his/her experience, and give them the time and patience to speak what they are feeling, we give them the space to start healing.  When we take the time to listen, we will know the proper time to give that other person a positive statement that can completely change the way they are thinking and feeling.  By saying even, the simplest words to another person in need, we help them to see that they are not alone, they have support, and they are loved.  Some small words of encouragement are intended as guidance for people, while other words are meant for providing clarity in life.

Lela was a young, vibrant woman that was cheerful, friendly, and creative in life. She was following a spiritual life, enjoying using her newly founded spiritual gifts.  Lela felt sure of herself, reading about all her abilities and strengthening them.  The evening after Lela had her birthday, she began to have many paranormal things start to happen to her.  She began to become fearful.  She was being spiritually attacked in her bed at night.   She started getting attacked, spiritually every day.  One evening, she decided to call a person whom she did not know, but read about in his newly written book.  She thought this person might be able to shed some light on to the situation. This person was a professional Psychic Medium.  She called this person and talked to him.  He was perplexed as to why she would call him.  He was also perplexed on what to do.  They talked for a bit, Lela feeling calm, but the psychic medium feeling nervous.  Then the conversation ended.  Lela hung up with no answers to her problems.  Each day, Lela thought about the conversation she had with the psychic medium.  Even though there were no concrete solutions provided to her, she remembers one sentence that caused her to re-evaluate her situation. One sentence that was spoke at the correct time to her that completely changed her thinking and feeling.  Lela had needed to be reminded about how powerful it is to “pray”.  This psychic medium reminded her when times are hard or we are going through something bigger than us, we need to use our spoken words, in this situation, prayer.

This true story, with a name changed, is an example of using the spoken word as a form of healing to another in life. How simple one word can be that can change a person’s perspective in life.  Even a stranger can provide healing words to another.  Lela is doing well and has come to appreciate the support and help others can provide at just the right moment with the spoken word.

Sound healing is all about providing loving vibrations that break up negative blockages inside of the energetic body. Once these blockages are dissolved, a person can have clarity of mind, body, and heart.  A person can become balanced energetically, which causes the rest of the body to become balanced also.

Let’s all of us  get out in to the world, whether it is in a huge city or in our own little neighborhood, and be there for another with gentle, loving, kind words that when spoken to another at the appropriate time, can cause them to start healing themselves.

Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

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There are times we feel dizzy, like we are in a wonderland of some sorts.  Our reality around us feels a little distorted, like you’re not quite in your body.  Does this sound like you at times?  I know for me, when I was younger, this feeling would happen here and there.  Why?  If it isn’t for medical reasons, you probably are not grounded.  Grounding is being in your body, feeling it, and accepting it.  Grounding is pulling your attention down in your body, your feet and the ground.  Highly sensitive people will have hard times with being grounded in life due to being a higher vibration in life.  Living life in a higher vibration will cause a person to spend lots of time “up in their heads”.  Staying grounded in life provides you with a way to:  enjoy life as a embodied Divine spirit, helps you to stay in the present moment, helps you to release negative energy that you receive, and it provides you with stability in life’s experiences.

Here are some ways I use to stay grounded:

-Imagine you have tree roots growing through the bottom of your feet and your Root chakra.  Send them down into the ground to circle around the middle of the Earth.  Bring them back up to wrap around your ankles and your waist.  Imagine a lever at your side, open it.  Now with intention, send the negative energies down into the ground to be changed to positive energy. (Don’t forget to open this lever.  If you do not, you will not be able to get rid of the negative energy.)

-Be in nature for at least 20 minutes.

My Feet, picture by Cynthia Bergsbaken

-Walk on the bare ground with bare feet.  This is called Earthing.

-Send your attention to your feet.  Notice how your baby toe feels.  Wiggle it.  Now move to the next toe and feel it.  Ask yourself how does my toe feel?  And so on.  When you’re done with your toes, try feeling your foot and ankle.  This is bringing your attention down in to your body.

-Wearing grounding crystals.  I like Hematite, Black Tourmaline, Black Obsidian, and Gold Sheen Obsidian.  The stone must be a stone that tends to activate the Root chakra.

-Wearing certain essential oils.  I like Lavender, Pine, and Frankincense .  They are  relaxing and tend to bring me down into my body.

-Making sure you eat protein before encountering known experiences that are stressful  to you.  I cannot get grounded with lighter proteins such as Tofu.  For me, I need to eat animal meats.

-Keep plants in your home.  The smell of the dirt and the feel of the plants helps you become grounded.

-Walk barefooted in your home.

-When out and about, if you’re feeling ungrounded, try noticing every step your feet make.  First notice how the foot feels when it steps down in front of you.  Notice how your foot rolls and moves up again.

-If you’re feeling off, ungrounded while amongst people, try imagining a can of paint in your favorite color.  Now place the pail above your head and let it pour out on top of your head.  Watch the paint as it drips down  on your neck, your chest, and so forth.  How does it feel?  What does it look like?  How do you feel wearing your favorite color?

-playing drums or listening to drums can activate the Root chakra.

I hope some of these techniques can help you stay grounded.


Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken RM of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

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Reiki in the Prairie LLC·Wednesday, March 29, 2017

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I just read a very good article on spiritual responsibility.  How people who are highly spiritual are afraid of  taking their spiritual responsibility in life-be big in their soul’s purpose.  People tend to have excuses to why they should not follow what their soul’s purpose is on earth.  We manifest health issues, we manifest financial problems, we manifest rivals to either stop us or slow us down in our true purpose.  Why are we here? we ask ourselves.  What is my soul’s purpose?  Am I fearful of taking on my power in life?  Am I fearful to feel the inner power, my “I Am”, and so I sabotage my efforts?  We all have a beautiful, powerful ,light spirit in us.  We are here to bring our own inner light (power) to earth and manifest God’s love.  We are here to plant our light (love) on earth and hold it there.  In other words, we are here to recognize our own Divine selves.  We are also here to assist others in their struggle to  recognize their own Divinity.  Are you fearful of your own inner power, your responsibility?
Above note is written by Cynthia Bergsbaken RM, IARP

Here is the article I share with you to read.  Enjoy!

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Shadow Working

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I,  off and on make comments on posts in the Empath communities on Facebook.  It’s typical for me to suggest to others, the most important experience I’ve brought to my self is “Shadow Working” on my self.  Usually the comment I get back is, “What is Shadow Working?”

Shadow Working is basically you excavating in to who you are.  To start, you can pick any area in yourself that you notice.  Such as;  Likes and dislikes-What is your favorite color?  Why?  How does it make you feel?  Why do I like this….?  Why don’t I like that?  Another area you could dive in to is your beliefs.  A lot of our problem beliefs were taught to us as children.  Question your beliefs;  Do you still believe in……?, Why?, Where did you learn it from?, Does it still make sense?, Is this belief always true for you?  If you find a problematic belief, it’s time to “dump” it and make yourself a new belief to take its place.  By using the formula that Luis Angel Diaz, author of “Memory in the Cell” shares with you, you start to see how the belief was benefitting you, in a negative way.

Formula exercise from “Memory in the Cell”(1).

Find the strongest emotion regarding your belief.  Example rage.

Now place that emotion in to this formula-  “What is the benefit of your feeling ………(example rage)?  Answer this.  Try writing all this down on paper.  If the benefit is an action word, write down how you feel about it.  Keep writing down this question with each new beneficial  emotion.  When you get to the most positive emotion you can have from this, stop.  Now look at all your first answer(example rage) and your last answer(example love).  Place the last  answer in the first spot in this formula.  Formula 2.   “In order to …….I need to……”.   Than take your first answer and place it in the last spot in this formula.  Now read it and think about it.  This is how you think in terms of this belief.  “In order to feel love, I need to rage”.   Does this make sense to you?  This is a good way to heal mistaken, negative beliefs in your life.  By noticing what you actually believe, you’re able to heal and release them, replacing them with a positive  belief.  It is amazing to see and understand, how some of our beliefs from childhood became twisted.

Shadow working is also looking at your behavior in life.  Why did I react the way I did to that person?  Anytime you are triggered in life, or react negatively to an experience, you are projecting your negative emotions out to others.  This goes for any person that acts negatively in life.  People and experiences come in to our lives to help us “heal”.  At times, they trigger our negative reactions.  The person that triggered this in you is your mirror.  They just mirrored to you what you need to heal in yourself.  Example;  You are all excited because you bought a new purse that was different, but fun,  from your usual purchases.  You show your new purse to your sister, looking for that validation that it is so cute!  Your sister looks at the purse and says, “It looks like you bought that from a rummage sale!”  You become embarrassed at first, wishing you hadn’t bought  the purse.  But then you become angry at her.  Why?  Why did you  become embarrassed?  Your sister criticized you which made you feel ashamed.  She shamed your happy experience of having a cute, fun, out of the ordinary purse.  By becoming ashamed, you just let another person manipulate you.  Your sister, criticizing you , is a mirror image that shows you, you have this “criticizing” tendency also in you and have used it towards yourself and others.  Now ask yourself, why did I feel angry?  Because your personal boundaries were just attacked.  Your sister walked all over them and you did not stand up for yourself.  These are questions you need to ask yourself.  Why did you react the way you did and what is being shown to me (the others bad behavior) that I can heal in myself.  By healing the behavior in you, you actually start to also heal the other person’s behavior in them.  To heal behaviors shown to me by others, I have successfully used the “I love You” technique or also known as Ho’Oponopono technique.  The Ho’Oponopono technique

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was introduced by Dr. Hew Len of Hawaii.  I wrote an article talking about how to use this.

Lets take a closer look at the embarrassment or shame you felt from your sister criticizing you and your purse.  Why did you feel shame?  Again, this can be someone’s behavior towards you when you were young.  Think back to your parents, sister/brothers, etc.  Was there someone who off and on embarrassed/shamed you and others?  When you figure this out, it’s time for you to heal it.  Know when others act negatively in life, they are showing their inner realities to everyone they treat badly.  When you realize this, you start to think differently when someone acts badly.  Instead of feeling embarrassed, you start to have forgiveness and compassion for them.  You also can realize when someone purposely tries to make you feel bad about yourself, it’s called manipulation and control.  Manipulation is the” art of making someone’s soul dance for the manipulator’s pleasure.”  Stand up for yourself instead of dancing.  How?  By becoming assertive.   Assertiveness is not aggression, it’s simply stating, out loud,  what is happening, communicating how you feel about it, and stating what you want done about it.

Working on all your boundaries will also help you.  Look at each of your boundaries-Personal, Emotional, Mental, Sexual, and Business.  Write all your beliefs down regarding your boundaries.  Do they make sense?  Do you need to re-vamp them?

All these ways are a way to start “Shadow Working” on yourself.  I’ve been doing this for about 10 years now and I have enjoyed every stage of it.  I can’t think of any better way to show love to yourself than getting to know yourself.

I’m also a believer in using natural stones to help learn about your self.  By wearing one  or more of these stones, their energy vibrations will assist you in bringing forth emotional areas in your life to be healed.

Picture by Ancient Wisdom jewelry by Cynthia.

-Calcites                                              -Lepidolite

-Carnelian                                           -Magnesite

-Blue Chalcedony              -Malachite

-Citrine                                                   -Rainbow Moonstone

-Dragon’s Blood Jasper                        -Blue Common Opal

-Unakite Jasper                                    -Pink Common Opal

-Lapis Lazuli                                         -Rose Quartz

There are many other stones to choose from that can help you Shadow work.

Receiving Reiki energy in a session will also help you bring forward emotions and areas in your life that needs to be healed.  Reiki energy goes in to you and balances all aspects of you.  For more information on Reiki and Reiki sessions, go to

Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

I will list all my resources.  I also suggest you take a look at these books and videos for yourself.  I found them to be so helpful.

1.  “Memory in the Cell” by Luis Angel Diaz;

-Formula exercises for understanding your beliefs(1)


2.  Dr. Hew Len’s “I love you” technique, called Ho’Oponopono

-Found on Youtube as a video called, “Inner Child meditation”.

Dr. Hew Len also has a book about this technique talking more in detail.

“Zerolimits” by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len, PhD.

3.  “The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook”  by Edmund J. Bourne, PhD

(This is the 2000 edition.  There are newer editions available.)

4.  “Assertiveness for Earth Angels.”  by Doreen Virtue

5.  “Anatomy of the Spirit”  by Caroline Myss

6.  “Sacred Contracts” by Caroline Myss  (book on archetypes)

7.  “The Instruction” by Ainslie MacLeod

8.  “Emotional Freedom”  by Dr. Judith Orloff

9.  “Astrology for the Soul” by Jan Spiller

10.  “8 Ways to Spot Emotional Manipulation…” by Paul Lenda

11.  “Shame on You!  Do you Use Shame to Control Others?”  by Psychology Today






Be the Miracle!


Jellyfish by Cynthia Bergsbaken

Reiki in the Prairie LLC· Friday, February 24, 2017

Be the miracle!  Miracles may not happen if you just wish for them or ask for them.  It’s time that you stop observing, and talking about them  and actually do the work.  Be the miracle in life.
By Cynthia Bergsbaken  of Reiki in the Prairie LLC for inspirational and educational articles and for Reiki session information

Imagination, One of Your Super powers

God’s Unconditional love surrounding earth.
Our imaginations are one of our superpowers on earth. This is stated in the book called “Your 3 Best Super Powers” by Sonia Choquette. I feel she is 100% correct. You see, in this world, we use thought and spoken word to bring to us our own realities we live in. In other words, if we think negative thoughts and/or speak negative thoughts, we bring to us a world that is pretty negative. We bring other negative people to us that provide us with negative experiences. And so, I feel it is important we use our imaginations in loving ways. Watch our thoughts and spoken words. Are they loving? or are they in need of a little “tweaking” to a more positive feel. Instead of thinking of the future in “worry” and “resentment”, how about using your imagination and think of how beautiful your day will be. Think about all the smiles you can give out and think about how people will respond to this-in a loving way. Imagine yourself, walking through your day with a circle(aura) around you that projects “love” to everyone you see and meet. Think about how your evening will look. Maybe imagine you are meeting friends, a significant other, or family and you see yourself having the greatest time. All of you are laughing, smiling, and enjoying each others company. Or maybe you had a fight with someone the other day. Now imagine yourself walking up to the person and hugging them. The other person is stunned, but then melts into the hug and says, “I’m sorry” and hugs back. Now after you’re done thinking and imagining these experiences, how do you feel? You feel more positive and loving. Now, when you go out in to the world, notice how people react to you. You are projecting off “love”. Notice how people will look at you with warmth and love in their hearts. Notice you’re making a positive difference in your area. Now think of how it started by you using your imagination in a loving way and how it is impacting the area around you, like a domino affect. Why not, in your imagination, place your love and God’s unconditional love around our world and ask it to stay for eternity. I invite you to help change our world with “using your imagination in a loving way. “
Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken of Reiki in the Prairie LLC for more whole health/inspirational articles and Reiki session information.
sources:  Your 3 Super Powers by Sonia Choquette

Ho’Oponopono, the “I love you” Technique

                                          Ho’Oponopono,  the “I love you”

                                                    Technique    12/15/16

What is Ho’oponopono technique and why should it interest you? This technique is an ancient Hawaiian technique for clearing out your Subconscious mind.  The Subconscious mind is also known as our “Inner child.”   Our Subconscious minds contain all the information and memories of our existence.  Our Subconscious minds are like computers collecting all the data that comes to us as energy. Energy that is equivalent to emotions, thoughts, ideas, thinking, etc.  This technique was brought to the public by Ihaleakala Hew Len, PhD.  Dr. Hew Len is a psychologist who was working with mentally ill criminals in Hawaii using this technique to cure them.   This technique uses “love” to heal.  It sounds like a fairy tale, but it is proven through Dr.  Hew Len’s accomplishment of healing all the criminals in Hawaii’s hospital.  He did this without even seeing the patient!   This is just a quick back ground of this technique.  My intention is to actually give you the technique to start using it in your everyday life. I may have inadvertently changed a few of the words, but it still works.  Dr. Hew Len has a Youtube video that he talks to the audience about this technique and how to use it.       

 There is also a book that I have read about this technique called, “Zerolimits” by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len, PhD.

Let’s get back to your Subconscious mind (Inner child). What kinds of things do I need to erase from my Inner child?  Building a good relationship with your Inner child is the most important relationship you can make in your life, says Dr. Hew Len.  Your Inner child can be looked at as yourself at a young age.  Talking to your Inner child, acknowledging him/her when you feel yourself having negative emotions, and asking him/her what do they need, is being a good parent to your Inner child.  You need to be a loving parent to your Inner child, providing him/her with security and fulfilling needs.  As far as what should you erase from your Inner child, it’s whatever you feel is detrimental to your young self.  And so, if you had a bad experience, whether from your past or now, it would be wise to use this technique to heal it and erase it from your Inner child. Treat your Inner child like any other precious, young child, but in this case, it is you as a young child.  If the experience would not be beneficial for a child to be around, this is prompting you to use this technique to release it.  When you use this technique, you’re not only healing yourself, but you are also healing the other person involved with the experience. 

So here is the technique. I started using this technique about 2 years ago now. 

The words you will use (technique) are:

“I’m so sorry”

“Please forgive me”

“I love you”

“Thank you”

Yep, it’s that simple! When you say these words to your Inner child, you are telling your Inner child (which is also your Divine self) you’re sorry for neglecting him/her.  How many times have you asked your Inner child, “how are you doing?  Do you have a need?  Or I feel you’re scared, how can I help, how can I give you support?”  Our Inner child has been with us since we were created.  We are apologizing for not paying attention to their needs, for not healing the “bad” experiences and emotions we have stored up all our life.  The Inner child has had to continually experience all your “bad” experiences in your life. 

Saying “please forgive me”, we’re are asking our Inner child (Divine selves) for forgiveness for neglecting them.

Saying “I love you”, you’re creating that precious relationship with your Inner child. In order for us to heal ourselves, we must love ourselves first and foremost. 

And finally, letting your Inner child know that you are very thankful for their help, again is part of making a precious, loving relationship with your Inner child. (Divine self). You are thankful, that they will heal and erase what needs to be.

These words are said 3x in a row.

So here is an example how I use this to clear my Inner child.

Example: On the internet, I have a person become mean acting to me.  I figure out she is jealous of my ability to make jewelry.  After I get home, I will ponder if this same kind of behavior is in me? (jealousy of another’s abilities.)  We all are mirrors to each other, showing what is in our aura’s that is unhealed.  I think back to my life, reviewing it and looking for similar behavior.  I find that I have become jealous of other’s abilities in my life.  And so, to use this technique, I’ll say, “Cynthia (my name), it’s time to clean house. Please find all the information and memories of me being jealous of other’s abilities in life.  Gather all this together and release it up to God to be healed, neutralized, and erased. I am so sorry, please forgive me, I love you, and I thank you.  I say the bold line 3x’s.  That’s it, the behavior I had previously had in my Subconscious mind stored up has been healed, taken out and erased. This technique can also be used for unhealed past life issues.  Just say the same words, except place in “gather all this information and memories from my past lives and present life.” 

 The more you do this technique, the more space you make for inspiration to enter your mind.  Thank you  Dr. Hew Len for bringing this technique forward in to the public.  I, myself am very thankful!

Information from:

*“Zerolimits” by Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len

*Youtube video by Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len (Dr. Hew Len)

Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken, RM, IARP of Reiki in the Prairie LLC (a registered member of International Association of Reiki Professionals)


To love oneself is to take care of yourself!

To love oneself is to take care of yourself!


Picture by Cynthia Bergsbaken
This would include, creating your own personal boundaries, standing up for your personal boundaries-no matter the cost, walking away from issues that do not have your highest interest at heart, watch what seeds you plant in life (watch your thoughts and what you say, make sure it is not opinion (judgement), but factual and kind. Instead of seeking revenge on another for their negative projection to you, find compassion, forgive, and send “Blessings” for these are the people who truly need to be healed and could use “blessings”. Be authentic to yourself! (talk authentic, act authentic-no matter the consequences.) Exercise, eat foods that your body feels good on.(This doesn’t mean the foods that your head says, yum, yum to.), stop any addictive behaviors(smoking, drinking alcohol, binge eating, emotional eating, etc.) Learn to be more assertive. Learn to say “no”. We are not “superman/woman, when that next volunteer job comes up and you already have your hands full or you’re not interested in it, just say “no”. “No” is a complete sentence, so use it. You’re not the only one in the world that can help this new group, or help that person that sooo needs to have some help. When life gives you “sour apples”, don’t blame others for your “sour apples”. Instead, look closer at what your thoughts, behavior, and actions are in life. Take responsibility for the Universe giving you the experience in the first place. We receive what we put out there. Each experience will teach us all about ourselves. Take the time and learn about yourself.
These are some ways we can “love ourselves”. We can only love others when we love ourselves first.
Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken, RM IARP of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

Letting Go

Picture by Cynthia Bergsbaken.

In life, we are constantly being asked by God to “Let go.”  Each time we move to a new  house, we need to let go of friends and relatives.  Each time we need to heal  traumatic issues and toxic emotions, we need to “let go.”  When we graduate from high school and college, we are asked to let go of friends and that comfortable way of life we’re used to.  We get married, we let go of our dependency to our parents and family.  Our own children get married or move away, again we need to let go.  Soon our relatives and friends start to die and cross over to the unseen worlds.  We are asked to “let go” for our sake and theirs.  When we become known as elderly ourselves, we let go of our youth.  When we come to our last day on earth, God, one last time asks us to let go.  Let go of all physical ties.  Let go of family and friends.  When we are in heaven, we let go from being who we were in the physical realm.  Every time we “let go”, God gives back to us  love, support, compassion, and the ability to learn more about ourselves.  So death at the end of life is not scary, horrible, or new.  For all through our lives, we have been letting go and walking forward, becoming more and more independent, beautiful, compassionate, and loving.  Each time we are asked to “let go”, we find another missing piece of ourselves.  When we are at the end of our lives, Reiki energy sessions can be greatly beneficial to both the one leaving our earthly realm and to those who are left behind.  Reiki energy provides you with peace, calmness, love, and support for inner healing.  These are beneficial to both, the one who is leaving earth and to the one who is left behind. Reiki energy will help with your depression and fear you feel.   I invite you to help your loved  one feel love, calm, and at peace while getting ready for their new life. 

Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken, Usui Reiki Master, RM-IARP

of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

Fear and our Survival Archetypes

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Have you ever noticed you act in a certain way when it comes to facing your fears? For example, you find yourself in a toxic job that  has a toxic environment, but you’re unwilling to quit it due to how much money you earn.  This is a good example of having the Prostitute Archetype( a Survival archetype) working in your life. In pursuit of my desires to be the best I can be in life, I came across” Archetypes”. Archetypes are patterns of behavior that we all show through out our lives.  I feel they are really worth looking at and understanding. I’ve been facing my fears in life and so for me,  I have found the Survival archetypes to be the most beneficial to learn about. In understanding these four archetypes, I am able to understand why I act in certain ways in regards to “Fear”.  When you understand these archetypes, one is better able to confront their fears and heal them. Have I peaked your interest? We all have the four Survival archetypes. These four are named: the Child, the Prostitute, the Victim, and the Saboteur. Whenever we feel our survival is threatened in any way, one of these archetypes will show up in you, challenging you to act in the most positive way.  The way our Divine selves want us to act in life.

The Child archetype represents your Inner child. When you view yourself as a young child, you are viewing your “Inner child.” Dr. Hew Len of Hawaii  has mentioned that the Inner child is the most important relationship you would have in your life on earth.  The Inner child, says Dr. Hew Len, is your Divine self.  The Child archetype includes all the different variations of “the child.” Some examples are the Wounded child and the Abandoned child. The Child archetype is here to teach you all about dependency and responsibility. Lessons demonstrating when you need to be independent,  standing on your own or knowing when to stand with the group.

The Victim archetype watches over your personal boundaries. Your Victim archetype will show up when you feel like a victim. There are times a person desires to be in the victim mode.  The benefits of being a victim would be looking for sympathy for oneself and/or not having the desire to stand up for oneself. The Victim archetype  teaches a person  about self-esteem and personal power with the use of personal boundaries. What are personal boundaries? The definition in Wikipedia states, “To have guidelines, rules, and /or limits a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them.” When you find yourself acting like a victim, such as blaming others, complaining, and/or self-pity, ask yourself, “Why?  “Is there a benefit to acting this way?” Figure out why you feel threatened.  Then use your own personal power to face it and over come it.

The Prostitute archetype shows up when you are in a situation of -“How much am I willing to sell myself for?”-“Yourself” meaning: your values, righteousness, your brainpower, your word, your physical body, or even your soul, to gain physical comfort. This archetype watches over your  faith in yourself.  Anytime one walks their own empowered path through life, they will always meet up with some type of  challenger or opponent who will try to buy, manipulate, or pollute you. These rivals recognize you have your own power(self empowered) in life and so they will try to take a part of you to feel more powerful than you. The dark side of this archetype shows up when you take shortcuts in life to feel more self power. This archetype will be the guardian of your faith, thus notifying you when you are changing from faith to physical comfort.

The Saboteur archetype watches over your choices in life. Anytime you have problems that  happen in your life, you have the choice to take responsibility for your own actions(which includes your thoughts and words) and what you have created in life. This archetype will give you the choice of following your inner “nudges”.  Whether your “inner nudges” are asking you to quit your job, go public with who you really are, or to  open up your own business, use courage and act upon your gut instinct to calm the Saboteur archetype.


1).  Wikipedia definition on Personal Boundaries

2).  “Sacred Contracts” by Caroline Myss  (archetypes)

3).  “The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook” by Edmund J. Bourne, PhD (archetype-Inner child)

4).  “Zerolimits” by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len, PhD (Inner child)

5).  “Innerchild Meditation” by Dr. Hew Len  (Inner child archetype)

Article written by Cynthia Bergsbaken Usui Reiki Master, RM-IARP

of Reiki in the Prairie LLC

Picture by Cynthia Bergsbaken