"One thing to remember is to talk to the animals. If you do, they will talk back to you. But if you don't talk to the animals, they will not talk back to you, then you won't understand, and when you don't understand you will fear and when you fear you will destroy the animals, and if you destroy the animals, you will destroy yourself." Chief Dan George of the Tsleil-Waututh Nation
What is Chief Dan George saying?
Have you ever walked somewhere public only to be face to face with someone that looks scary to you? The way they dress, the way they carry themselves, their words they use, and maybe even their tattoos and makeup create for you a scary person.
Or maybe you've come face to face with someone that you do not know, but you feel intimidated for some reason?
Let's look at this spider pictured above. It is scary looking with his numerous eyes and spikes coming off his/her legs. Wow, like a Halloween costume, but in real life.
This past summer my town had a first time Drag show come in. Days prior to the show, the men who were in it decided to walk around the town in their show clothes advertising and trying to show people they are good, nice people.
Many people took offense to seeing them in our town, using derogatory language towards them. Some perceived the guys as being perverted. Some perceived the guys as unholy. And others perceived them as being something we need to hide under a rug. Actions were taken by some of the town's people.
Some talked about taking funding away from our historical Goss Opera House for bringing in such a "lurid" show. Some gathered in gang fashion staring with hatred and fight in their hearts at the group of people waiting to go into and watch the show. While others complained with malice in their hearts on social media.
Some of the people in the group waiting to watch the show dressed in Punk rock fashion. A sight that most people in a small Midwest town would not have seen before.
The show went on despite the onlookers, the complaints, the funding potentially taken away, and the hateful talk on social media. As I walked into the Opera house's show room, I could sense excitement and joy.
As I watched the show, listened to the actors, I was hit with a lot of love, dedication to who they are, and their strength in being a minority among oceans of people. They were there to share who they are. They were there to teach us; they are also people. They were there to teach each one of us, they too have hurts, they too have fears, they too have love in their hearts, and they also have people who love them for who they are.
Chief Dan George tells us to take time to talk to each other. I ask you to take time and talk to animals, spiders, birds, trees, etc. and people.
They are only scary to you if you allow your mind to tell you, "Different looking, acting- Oh, Oh, run!!!! it's a threat to our survival!"
We are all different in one way or more. We are all unique. Open your hearts up to others being different then you. There will always be differences. Whether a different first name, different skin color, different culture, different beliefs, different eye colors, different taste in art, different ranges of health among people, or as the spider shows you, different number of eyes.
As people we have used fear to make decisions. When we act out in a negative way or if we think (thoughts) on a negative way, we are coming from fear as the root. What is your fear???
Take time and sort it out. Ask yourself deep questions concerning what you are feeling negative about.
Then when you can answer honestly to yourself, plan for yourself on how you can face your fear and feel confident. When we face our strong, negative emotions, we can heal them and release them. Each time you face this fear, it will lose more and more power over you.
So, if you fear a man who dresses in drag, look throughout your life, and find the hurt this may be related to. Maybe you used to be called a derogatory name like "fag" when you were young due to acting more feminine.
That was a deep hurt you felt due to that. You were rejected, criticized, and you were made to feel bad about who you were at the time. This hurt was carried into your adult life. That hurt comes out as negativity towards others who act more feminine. You are projecting your hurt onto someone else. When we fear others, we are projecting our fear out on someone else.
The scary person isn't the person in front of you, it's you. It's your energy. This belief is in you. This hurt is in you. The other person has only triggered you so you can see this hurt in you. When we project negativity on to others, we only hurt ourselves. We strengthen the fear in ourselves. Thus, we keep darkening up our auras. Thus, we start to create blockages in our energy system. If the blockages remain, they will trickle down to our physical selves- our bodies. Blockages create dis-ease.
Every time we pick fear over love in our choices, we hurt ourselves, we hurt our futures. We keep living in our own worlds of fear. The more fear, the more we must control ourselves and everyone around us. It's like, the more fear in ourselves, the more we look like a large, cocoon of cobwebs. We tie ourselves up with fear! We are not free.
When we take time to talk to ourselves and others, we find that the world and everything in it, including ourselves, is not so scary after all. Everyone may not be our "cup of tea", but all in all, we are all one, people/animals/trees/plants/birds/ etc. on this beautiful world called Earth.
So, take time to talk! You'll see that other person or spider isn't so scary after all. In fact, you find out they have similar challenges in life as you. You may find out that scary person is actually a very friendly, loving soul who wants to live their life, their way.
Take time to talk to yourself. You have the fear. Take time to understand yourself, your fear, and give yourself forgiveness, compassion, and love. After all, if you can't love yourself, who can?
By Cynthia Bergsbaken of Reiki in the Prairie LLC
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I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist, or medical doctor. These articles I have written, are from reading and experiencing them. Many of these articles are my own experiences with my own inventions to heal as well.
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