In this world, we are surrounded by strong negative emotions. At times they are from our own family, friends, coworkers, or boss. It's o.k. to feel these emotions. For when we do, we realize we are feeling another's unhealed pain. We're not here to fix the other person, to take on their pain, or even to project back the same negative emotions. We are here to feel the pain and understand it, find compassion & forgiveness, and heal ourselves. We are here to find out who we are, and to follow in life what gives us enjoyment, excitement, curiosity, and happiness.
If people or a situation in your life does not provide you with enjoyment and happiness, but grief, oppression, and demeaning feelings towards yourself, do what you need to do to change it. If it requires you to be "assertive" in life towards the situation and people, then do so. By understanding the situation and you figure out there is no way to change the situation or people with assertiveness, be ready to walk away from it, be it a job or an abusive relationship.
Life is too short to put up with disrespect, criticizers, gossipers, controllers, manipulators, or abusers.
If you do not have good, sound "personal boundaries" then make some and stand-up for yourself. After all, you are the only one of you. The world needs individual people and not ones who conform to what others think you should act like or be like.
Don't you think it's time you "Love" yourself? Love yourself by holding on to strong, personal boundaries around people who challenge you. Be your true authentic self!
Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken of Reiki in the Prairie LLC 09-16-2016. Re-written by Cynthia Bergsbaken, 04-21-2020.