Ho'Oponopono or "I Love You"

by Cynthia Bergsbaken Photography

What is Ho'Oponopono and why should it interest me?

This technique is an ancient Hawaiian technique for clearing out your Subconscious mind.  The Subconscious mind is also known as our "Inner child".  Our Subconscious minds contain all the information and memories of our existence.  Our Subconscious minds are like computers collecting all the data that comes to us as energy.  Energy that is equivalent to emotions, thoughts, ideas, thinking, etc.  This technique was brought to the public by Ihaleakala Hew Len, PhD.

Dr. Hew Len is a psychologist who was working with mentally ill criminals in Hawaii using this technique to cure them.  This technique uses "love" to heal.  It sounds like a fairy tale, but it is proven through Dr. Hew Len's accomplishments of healing all the criminals in Hawaii's hospital.  He did this without even seeing the patient!  

This is just a quick back ground of this technique.  My intention is to actually give you the technique to start using it in your everyday life.  I may have inadvertently changed a few of the words, but it still works.  Dr. Hew Len has a Youtube video showing him teaching the public about this technique and how to use it.  https://youtu.be/5lHiWyWU-Eo

There is also a book that I have read about this technique called, "Zerolimits" by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len, PhD.  This book contains a lot of background and information that is interesting.

Let's get back to your Subconscious mind (Inner child).  What kinds of things do I need to erase from my Inner child? 

 Like a computer, there are old files that do more harm then good.  Building a good relationship with your Inner child is the most important relationship you can make in your life, says Dr. Hew Len.  Your Inner child can be looked at as yourself at a young age.  

Talking to your Inner child, acknowledging him/her when you feel yourself having negative emotions, and asking him/her "what do you need?", is being a good parent to your Inner child.  You need to be a loving parent to your Inner child, providing him/her with security and fulfilling needs.  As far as what should you erase from your Inner child, it's whatever your feel is detrimental to your young self.  

And so, if you had a bad experience, whether from your past or now, it would be wise to use this technique to heal it and erase it from your Inner child. 


"I'm sorry"

"Please forgive me"

"I love you"

"Thank you"

Treat your Inner child like any other precious, young child, but in this case, it is you as a young child.  If the experience would not be beneficial for a child to be around, this is prompting you to use this technique to release it.  When you use this technique, you're not only healing yourself, but you are also healing the other person involved with the experience.

So here is the technique.  I, myself started using this technique in around 2014.  

The words you will use (technique) are:

Yep, it's that simple!  When you say these words to your Inner child, you are telling your Inner child (which is also your Divine self) you're sorry for neglecting him/her. 

 How many times have you asked your Inner child, "How are you doing?"  "Do you have a need?"  Or "I feel you're scared, how can I help, how can I support you?"

Our Inner child has been with us since we were created.  We are apologizing for not paying attention to their needs, for not healing the "bad" experiences and emotions we have stored up all our lives.  The Inner child has had to continually experience, over and over all the "bad" experiences you've had in your life.

Saying "please forgive me", we're asking our Inner child (Divine selves) for forgiveness for neglecting them.

Saying "I love you", you're creating that precious relationship with your Inner child.  In order for us to heal ourselves, we must love our selves first and foremost.

And finally, letting your Inner child know that you are very thankful for their help, again is part of making a precious, loving relationship with your Inner child. (Divine self).  You are thankful, that they will heal and erase what needs to be.

Now back to this technique.  Speak in your head or out loud these phrases noted above in bold,  3x in a row.  Here is an example of how I use this to clear my Inner child.

Example:  On the internet, I had a person become mean towards me.  I figure out she is jealous of my ability to make jewelry.  After I get home, I will ponder if this same kind of behavior, jealousy of others' abilities, is in me. 

 We all are mirrors to each others, showing what is in our aura's that is unhealed.  I will think back, looking at my life, reviewing it and looking for similar behavior. 

 I find that I have become jealous of others' abilities in my life. 

 And so, to use this technique, I'll say, "Cynthia (your name), it's time to clean house.  Please find all the information and memories of me being jealous of others' abilities in my life.  Gather all this together and release it up to God to be healed, neutralized, and erased.  I am so sorry, please forgive me, I love you, and I thank you. "  I will say the bold line 3xs after I had said the part in Italic lettering. That's it.  

The behavior I had previously had in my Subconscious mind stored up has been healed, taken out and erased.  Thus, this will stop replaying over and over in my mind. 

This technique can also be used for unhealed past life issues.  just say the same words, except place in "gather all this information and memories from my past lives and present life."

The more you do this technique, the more space you make for inspiration to enter your mind.  

This technique has helped me erase many childhood "hurts" and adult life "hurts".  I recommend you try this and continue using it.  Become a better parent to your Inner child then what your Inner child had while growing up.  This is where you can give your Inner child the love and acceptance that you may not had felt while growing up or in adult life. 

I want to thank Dr. Hew Len for sharing this technique to the public.  I also want to thank Joe Vitale for writing & working with Dr. Hew Len on his book "Zerolimits".

I myself am very thankful for this technique.


*  "Zerolimits" by Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len

* Youtube video by Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len (Dr. Hew Len)

Written by Cynthia Bergsbaken for Reiki in the Prairie LLC

Originally 12-15-2016
Re-written on 1-23-2020

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